I create magic PS. You do too

Do you believe in magic?

I do.

So what is magic? I think it’s when something happens that you weren’t expecting or didn’t think was possible. An unexpected, pleasant surprise which excites you.

For me, magic is a feeling, a spark of energy, usually between two people, but it can be created individually too, when you have an idea. It’s that sizzle of possibility, something that is literally being realised, or you can feel is moments away from becoming a reality.

You know the feeling, when you’re starting a new business, organisation or perhaps designing a new products or strategy. When everything is still verbal and there is no reality yet to weigh things down, it feels like anything is possible.

In moments of magic I get red cheeks, a tingly feeling inside and I struggle to wipe the smile off my face. It’s a bit like that feeling when someone flirts with you and you walk away unsure if anything will come of it. 

If you can truly embrace and harness this magical feeling – just IMAGINE what you can create! It’s the vibe inside a start-up, the energy of an inventor on the verge of a new creation .. or the excitement when you fall in love. It’s brilliant and wonderful.

So why do we shy away from it? Well, firstly it’s quite an addictive feeling and it can be a little overwhelming. In the past I’ve confused the ‘magic’ of truly connecting with someone whom I share an interest with, with a romantic attraction to that person, so I understand why it can be a struggle to separate the two.

Not only do you feel this exciting and positive energy others in your life do to. Partners can feel suspicious or even threatened by the ‘vibe’ swirling around you when you speak of the ideas and conversations, you’re having with this person you’ve just met, or just discovered you have a deeper connection with.

I’ve come to understand that true connection is a form of intimacy. It’s not just for romantic partners, a truly intimate connection is needed in order to evolve a new idea and bring it to fruition. It involved vulnerability and some degree of risk.

We know that sharing an idea involves some level of risk.  The other person could ‘take’ your idea and use it without you, or worse, they could judge you for it. Also, when you stop and think logically through an idea you can overthink it and loose momentum all together.

But when you trust someone else and embrace the magic of a deep connection, the possibilities are not just double, but multiply exponentially. If you open your heart and mind to another person, and truly hear what their heart and mind is saying in response, THAT is magic.

I’ve explored this topic in a business sense above, but it can be used in so many more ways. If only we could create more magic in our day to day lives, with friends, family and romantically. Imagine who amazing life could be if we could open our hearts and minds and share our dreams without fear of judgement or the need for self protection.

I’m sure you already have this with your bestie, it might be what brought you together – a shared interest in something. It may also be the thing that brought you and your partner together, the initial topic that sparked that interest in knowing more about each other.

With this understanding we can actively choose to entertain topics which create magic with the people closest to us in order to deepen our connection or create some intimacy.

I experience magic quite often, and I feel very lucky,

A few years ago I went to a fortune teller (not something I would normally do), the only thing she told me was ‘when I followed my heart I would achieve success’. At the time I had just come out of an abusive relationship which happened straight after a marriage break up. I felt bruised and battered and as if I could never love again.

But I did listen. Thankfully I had learned about red flags and boundaries, so I wasn’t likely to fall for someone ‘selling’ a false connection. I had also developed an internal belief that most people are good at heart, and that most of us are actually craving a real connection.

By opening my heart and my mind at the right time and with the right people I now have a wonderful job and boss, a loving partner and many deep friendships and connections through my business and community work.

Each person has a unique link to me which creates sparks of magic occasionally, this means that overall, I get sparks of magic regularly. These moments give me positivity, excitement and energy – which are literally my sparks of life.

I know I am making this sound easy, and I fully acknowledge that it’s not always possible to open our hearts and our minds. We’ve all got competing demands, location can be a factor and money always seems to play it’s part. On top of that, the person you wish to connect with may not be in the position for this kind of conversation at the moment or desire a connection with you.

But be that as it may I think it’s worth trying, and trying again, and trying again. Don’t take failure or rejection to heart, look for another person, another topic or why not generate your own magic internally – create something new to share with the world (like my book) and people will come to you!

It really is tricky, isn’t it?

I suppose that’s another reason I call it magic …

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Margot Korhonen, an author and creative soul, published "Creating Connected Communities" in 2023, building on her 2009 children's book, "I Grow Vegetables." With over two decades of experience in the not-for-profit sector, she's a mural artist, designer, and marketing expert.



Margot's passion lies in connecting people to make a real difference. She advocates for collaboration between small businesses and communities to create positive change without added stress.